tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5274935109810298997.post2351105477759101211..comments2022-11-16T09:05:22.593-06:00Comments on I am Inspired: you should thank your husbandInspired Vanessahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11267599824573875688noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5274935109810298997.post-8862720765837947232010-03-18T18:25:26.797-05:002010-03-18T18:25:26.797-05:00Right on.Right on.birrienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5274935109810298997.post-22759185957808621772010-03-17T19:32:10.635-05:002010-03-17T19:32:10.635-05:00Oh, Vanessa! I totally totally agree with you. Y...Oh, Vanessa! I totally totally agree with you. You shouldn't have to deal w/ any of that. I wasn't trying to dissuade you in your position at all. I was just adding another layer to the issue. That's it! :)Contra Yoginihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07848210960694248952noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5274935109810298997.post-79824861446699261422010-03-17T15:45:23.800-05:002010-03-17T15:45:23.800-05:00Yes, I agree, some of it is out of envy and I know...Yes, I agree, some of it is out of envy and I know this to be true- and I understand that even in this day and age equal partnerships are rare-<br />But this is our fault if we don't step up and demand equality. We are complicit. And I don't think guys should get a medal for stepping up.<br />I watched my mother do things because my dad took too long- and if she had said "I guess this isn't getting done until you do what you said you would do" things would get done. Course being in an abusive and controlling relationship tends to thwart equality- But I refused REFUSED to have that and if it meant being alone- that is what it meant. I would not settle for less than equal.<br />But trust me when I say judgement comes with the envy- 'how dare you' comes with it- especially from the churchy crowd. But I live unapologeticly this way.<br />From men comes the extra surprise and the extra fear of the unknown that they might have to step it up if some other guy was.<br />It becomes tiresome to be asked to apologize for living my life the way I do, it becomes tiresome to be asked to be more grateful for that which I am already grateful for- <br />It becomes tiresome to have to explain my choice to not be a traditional mother and wife- when I spend huge amounts of time with my kids and I am setting a grand example of independence for my daughters- it just wears on me.Inspired Vanessahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11267599824573875688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5274935109810298997.post-54485169074235575112010-03-17T14:58:13.707-05:002010-03-17T14:58:13.707-05:00Well said.
I would also add that folks aren'...Well said. <br /><br />I would also add that folks aren't used to seeing men step up and take responsibility for their fatherly duties (short of the financial ones and sometimes not even those). <br /><br />So many men can't be bothered to share in the domestic work and child rearing. They can't be seen doing "women's work" or they feign incompetence to get out of it. (Yes, even today--check out the statistics if you don't believe me!) <br /><br />So, I think some women (in particular) are saying you should thank your husband - not out of judgment of you, but out of envy.Contra Yoginihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07848210960694248952noreply@blogger.com